Oppositional Defiant Disorder
“Oppositional Defiant Disorder” can be a very challenging and difficult issue to deal with.
There are some important factors that must be remembered and considered when dealing with Oppositional Defiant Disorder.
In particular, parents need to be careful when giving rewards. Yes, they can work miracles with some kids, but with others, particularly those with sever behavioural problems, such as Oppositional Defiant Disorder, giving rewards to encourage positive behaviour can have some problems.
In this article, Anthony Kane explains the problem of Oppositional Defiant Disorder…
Rewards. Positive Reinforcement. How often have we heard that this is a great way to motivate our children? However, if you’re dealing with an Oppositional Defiant Disorder child or a normal but difficult child, using rewards can be a big mistake.
I’m sure you’ve heard from many sources that giving rewards is a great parenting technique and it works in a lot of children. However, for Oppositional Defiant Disorder or ODD children in particular, it does not usually work and I’m going to explain why.
The common way parents are taught to give rewards has three basic problems. First of all, your child’s world is not a world of reward and punishment. Your child sometimes just has to listen to what he’s being told to do without any reward and this is particularly relevant for an Oppositional Defiant Disorder child.
For example, he’s in school. When your child is in the classroom with thirty children in the same class, the teacher’s not expected to use rewards to get each child to listen. Children just have to listen. That’s how the world functions. That’s how your world operates, also. No one gives you rewards for obeying the laws, for driving safely, for not cheating on your taxes. The world just doesn’t work that way.
A second problem is that when you use rewards to motivate Oppositional Defiant Disorder children, the need for the size of the rewards just escalates and escalates. The reason is this. Children are very smart. They catch on quickly that you’re giving them trinkets and rewards to get them to do things. When that happens, they’re going to understand that their behavior is more important to you than what they’re receiving, and they’re going to start holding out for more and more and higher and higher levels of rewards.
So, your 3-year-old child may be satisfied with a sticker or a little trinket not to go out into the street. Your 10 year old will be willing to come home from school on time if he gets a bigger reward, such as a video game. But how are you going to stop your teenager from driving drunk? What can you buy him? What are you going to give him? You just need to give more and more, and higher and higher levels of rewards. This is a crucial factor to consider especially in Oppositional Defiant Disorder children.
And the final problem with giving rewards is that sometimes, there’s just not a reward big enough to get the behavior you want. You might be able to buy compliance from your child on minor things, but on the big issues, the issues which your Oppositional Defiant Disorder child is fighting you on, there’s not going to be any reward you can buy that’s going to make a difference.
The reason for this is that Oppositional Defiant Disorder children want to be in charge. That’s the major issue for them. When your child disobeys you, he gets the sensation he is in charge. He’s in charge of himself and there’s nothing you can do about it. You just can’t buy that away from him with rewards.
So what typically happens is this. Let’s say in the case of Amy.
Amy’s a 11-year-old girl who is not necessarily an Oppositional Defiant Disorder child but a little bit defiant, and Amy’s mother wants her to help fold the laundry. There are times Amy does not mind folding the laundry and she’ll do it. To motivate her, her mother decides to give her a little present every time she does it, $5.00 for example.
There are going to be times where Amy is upset about something or something’s bothering her, and she’s going to want to assert herself, and there’s nothing the mother’s going to be able to do to get her to fold the laundry. Other times she might be busy and she won’t do it for any reward. Her mother will realize that the reward is not enough and decide to increase the amount and level of reward.
Whatever she’ll try to do, Amy is not going to comply. What will happen is this. As the reward goes up, she is now fixing a new price for folding laundry.
That’s the basic problem with using rewards, particularly in Oppositional Defiant Disorder children.
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